My Happiness Project: Early Mornings

Does anyone know exactly how or when that #MondayMotivation trend got started? I don’t need to ask why it’s become so big: most people are not fans of Mondays, and I may or may not be one of them — depending on the Monday. This week, I felt like I was walking the line.

When my alarm went off at 4:00 on Monday morning, my eyes popped open and the first word I uttered was, “Shit.”

Or maybe it was “Damn,” or maybe it was worse. Honestly, I can’t even remember. But I remember that Wednesday last week began the same way.

Maybe it works for some people. But for me, I don’t think cursing at the morning is the best way to start my day.

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Lately I’ve been reading by Gretchen Rubin, which is all about her experience of dedicating a year to making the effort to being happier in her daily life, and it has me unconsciously thinking about ways to adopt some of her principles. A big one for me is not to expect praise or appreciation — and to do chores and activities for myself, because I want them done. Evidently I have a long way to go, since I went off on my fiancé the other night for not helping me carry in the food, not grabbing Penny so I wouldn’t have to navigate getting in the door and up the stairs around her, not packing as many moving boxes as I have, not putting away the laundry… I could probably go on, and I did, and I regret that now because it only made him feel bad and didn’t make me feel better.

It certainly didn’t follow our routine of play-fighting — made more fun when it concerns Penny and she jumps in the middle to break it up, so we turn our focus to her — and eating dinner together in front of an episode of The Office. Then, he often gets back on the computer, and I go crawl into bed and use my phone to read until I fall asleep.

It’s easier to enjoy our time together when there isn’t any animosity toward each other or those unfinished chores that aren’t all that important anyway — life doesn’t stop and fall to pieces just because the laundry has spent two days in the dryer. Likewise, I still have to get up at 4:00 in the morning and get ready for a full day, and it’s easier to put a positive spin on that entire day if I don’t curse at it the moment I wake up.

Today went well. Today — even though I have 10,000 stressful and time-consuming things to do — is going to be a good day.

I like to write things that make people uncomfortable.

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