I agree with you, Caitlin, but I also find this statement problematic because it certainly seems like this is what’s going on in Washington right now. Men (like Trump) leading by example, making it clear that bullying, misogynistic behavior is acceptable — and giving other men license to do the same.

I think men should lead by example, yes, but they should also be supportive of and follow the lead that women set for them when we decide that no, their behavior is not acceptable, and we’re not going to tolerate it — such as standing up for ourselves in the workplace or in our relationships, for example.

Or standing up for ourselves with that group of teenage boys you rode past — it was smart not to engage, and I would’ve done everything you did, I think, including taking advantage of a man riding by to follow him in the direction you needed to go as a safety measure. But it’s a damn shame whenever women are unable to call others out on their intolerable behavior because it may put our safety at risk.

I like to write things that make people uncomfortable.

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